When we stumble across the person who we want to share our life with, we often don’t ask the truly important questions. The importance of role models is paramount in the discovery process for success in a relationship. So, asking your partner for all the gory, or hopefully, not so gory details of their childhood is imperative. Were they raised by their parents? Were their parents married? Were they affectionate to each other and to them and their siblings? Was there substance, verbal or physical abuse? Did they have a trusting relationship with their caregivers? Were they given the opportunity to ask questions and get appropriate answers? The possible questions are endless, but you get the idea.
The answers to these questions will give you a much better idea of what you are getting yourself into in your relationship. If any of the answers raise immediate red flags, then run for your life and your sanity before you get too invested.
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